Nourishing Your Soul
13/11/18 Filed in: Self-Care | Church Leadership
I remember the first time I had to wear a cast. I had broken fingers due to a soccer mishap when I was 11 years old. (Note: when you are the goalie, do NOT try to pick up the ball at the same time one of your fullbacks is kicking it!) I wore a cast up to my elbow for six weeks. It was still the hot part of the year. I was active. And sweaty. Very sweaty for an 11-year old. The inevitable itch-in-the-middle-of-the-cast developed. Have you ever had an itch you just couldn’t get to at all? Misery.
That’s the memory that was invoked when I read this
meme. Have you ever been tired in your soul - that deepest part of who you are? You can sleep all you want, but your soul still feels heavy, tired, and unenergised.
How do you recharge your soul?
Can I suggest four activities that can help answer that question?
1. Strengthen your relationship with God. Because God made the soul, He best knows how to recharge it. We live in such a small world these days with so many voices shouting their opinions. One of the consequences of that is massive distraction from what is really important. And this is one of those really important matters. I find that even church leaders can grow cold in a daily walk with God. God is seen more of a CEO they report to a few times a week, rather than Someone who has invited them to know Him on a personal basis. If you’re trying to recharge your soul without doing anything about your relationship with God, well, you might wanna rethink that!
2. Strengthen your relationship with others. I have a few friends who, when I spend time with them, absolutely recharge my soul. They get a good look at me, my strengths, my weaknesses, my dreams, my disappointments, my victories, and my defeats…and they share all that with me without judgement, unasked-for advice, or rejection. Do you have someone in your life you can bear everything to and know they will love and accept you regardless? These kinds of friends are priceless, and those friendships need to be protected with everything you have. If you don’t have that kind of friend, be assured there are others looking for you…because they don’t have that kind of friend either. Explore the friendships you have; see if you can nurture some of them into soul-nourishing relationships.
3. Do self-care…really. Self-care is the buzzword of the 2000s. Some like to write it off by complaining that our generation has become a bunch of softies who would never be able to stand the rigors of past generations. That may be so for some, but take a look at the environment in which this generation lives. When do we EVER switch off? When do we get to disconnect from the expectations, responsibilities, and busyness of our lives? One of my favourite moments from the Andy Griffith show is when Andy and Barney are sitting on Andy’s porch. They have a five minute conversation that goes something like this: B: “You know what I’m going to do?” (Long pause) A: “No, what?” (Long pause) B: “I’m gonna go down to the fillin’ station and get me a bottle of pop.” (Long pause) B: “Ye-e-e-e-p, I’m gonna go down to the fillin’ station and get me a bottle of pop.” (Long pause) A: “Yep. Sounds good.” (very long pause). B: “Ye-e-e-e-p, I’m gonna go down to the fillin’ station and get me a bottle of pop.” And then the conversation starts all over again. I don’t know if Barney ever did go get that bottle of pop, but you know what they were doing? Self-care! When is the last time you sat quietly for any length of time and did NOTHING? When is the last time you disconnected from your responsibility and expectations? Even if you’re an active relaxer, you still need to disconnect so you can recharge your soul.
4. Build your knowledge. I have found that if I’m not learning, my soul gets weary. I think we are built with an intrinsic desire to learn. There is something soul-nourishing about growing our understanding of something in this world. So whether it be learning a new skill, joining a book club, reading about history, or any of the myriad of methods of growing knowledge, this is a vital tool in nourishing your soul. When is the last time you learned something because YOU initiated the learning? I’m not talking about having to learn something for school or a job, but because it interested you. Pick up a book, take a class, learn something. It will bring back energy to your soul.
So there you have it, four ways of scratching an itch that sleep can’t reach. Re-energising your soul.
That’s the memory that was invoked when I read this
How do you recharge your soul?
Can I suggest four activities that can help answer that question?
1. Strengthen your relationship with God. Because God made the soul, He best knows how to recharge it. We live in such a small world these days with so many voices shouting their opinions. One of the consequences of that is massive distraction from what is really important. And this is one of those really important matters. I find that even church leaders can grow cold in a daily walk with God. God is seen more of a CEO they report to a few times a week, rather than Someone who has invited them to know Him on a personal basis. If you’re trying to recharge your soul without doing anything about your relationship with God, well, you might wanna rethink that!
2. Strengthen your relationship with others. I have a few friends who, when I spend time with them, absolutely recharge my soul. They get a good look at me, my strengths, my weaknesses, my dreams, my disappointments, my victories, and my defeats…and they share all that with me without judgement, unasked-for advice, or rejection. Do you have someone in your life you can bear everything to and know they will love and accept you regardless? These kinds of friends are priceless, and those friendships need to be protected with everything you have. If you don’t have that kind of friend, be assured there are others looking for you…because they don’t have that kind of friend either. Explore the friendships you have; see if you can nurture some of them into soul-nourishing relationships.
3. Do self-care…really. Self-care is the buzzword of the 2000s. Some like to write it off by complaining that our generation has become a bunch of softies who would never be able to stand the rigors of past generations. That may be so for some, but take a look at the environment in which this generation lives. When do we EVER switch off? When do we get to disconnect from the expectations, responsibilities, and busyness of our lives? One of my favourite moments from the Andy Griffith show is when Andy and Barney are sitting on Andy’s porch. They have a five minute conversation that goes something like this: B: “You know what I’m going to do?” (Long pause) A: “No, what?” (Long pause) B: “I’m gonna go down to the fillin’ station and get me a bottle of pop.” (Long pause) B: “Ye-e-e-e-p, I’m gonna go down to the fillin’ station and get me a bottle of pop.” (Long pause) A: “Yep. Sounds good.” (very long pause). B: “Ye-e-e-e-p, I’m gonna go down to the fillin’ station and get me a bottle of pop.” And then the conversation starts all over again. I don’t know if Barney ever did go get that bottle of pop, but you know what they were doing? Self-care! When is the last time you sat quietly for any length of time and did NOTHING? When is the last time you disconnected from your responsibility and expectations? Even if you’re an active relaxer, you still need to disconnect so you can recharge your soul.
4. Build your knowledge. I have found that if I’m not learning, my soul gets weary. I think we are built with an intrinsic desire to learn. There is something soul-nourishing about growing our understanding of something in this world. So whether it be learning a new skill, joining a book club, reading about history, or any of the myriad of methods of growing knowledge, this is a vital tool in nourishing your soul. When is the last time you learned something because YOU initiated the learning? I’m not talking about having to learn something for school or a job, but because it interested you. Pick up a book, take a class, learn something. It will bring back energy to your soul.
So there you have it, four ways of scratching an itch that sleep can’t reach. Re-energising your soul.